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ROAR: Overcome Obstacles in 3 Simple Steps: Neuroscience Secrets of Success Revealed! by Jennifer M. Dunne is an excellent self-help book with a fantastic down to earth and applicant method of overcoming the obstacles that life throws at you.
The information in this book is well researched and is not sterile accumulated knowledge. It’s information that derives from years of experience of the author dealing with rejection.
The method that the writer proposes is based on three steps. I disagree that they are simple. If they were simple, then a book was not necessary to explain them.
The book explains the three steps with crystal clear description and what I liked about was the fact that the author gave examples of incidents from her life that showed how the method worked and also how it evolved over the years.
I liked the small quotes that were mentioned in every chapter, and they were emphasizing the meaning of each section usefully. Did not know what was “Zeigarnik effect” now I do.
Each chapter is very well constructed. At the beginning of each chapter, a list of the items that would be covered is presented. Then the questions are explained in great detail and at the end a Summary that describes what was included in the chapter and also what the next episode is going to be about.
The chapters are not independent, and you need to read the previous section to understand the next. Which is natural since the theme of the book is an applicant living method.
Chapter two of the book gives a short overall of how the book would flow and its very useful because it gives you a big picture of the knowledge you will acquire.
Chapter 13 gives a complete example applying all of the knowledge, techniques, and tips that the book suggests so you can see how the whole process works.
It is an admirable attempt to help people deal with any obstacles that might come in their way (Physical, Emotional, Mental and Psychological)
The method is based primarily on the assumption that you have a friend or friends that care about you and are willing to help you and advice you. It is a buddy system, and in my opinion, that’s the flaw of the method.
The author was lucky because when she was trying to publish her books, she had a friend that was in the same situation with her and was there for her to help her pass the emotional turmoil of rejection and then take the logical actions.
After when she had her uterus cancer and also was diagnosed with diabetes, the writer had her husband to reach out and got through the waves of emotional cloudiness and guide her safely to the world of ontological decision making.
This method does works if you have a friend or a family member that will be able to help you do the following three things always according with the author: Listen with empathy, find the good, Choose a direction.
Again, many people do not have this kind of luxury of having reliable friends and active family that will be able to do that. It seems to me that the buddy that you need to reach out to start the method of dealing with the obstacles is a rare commodity.
When you open up to people that they love you, it’s easy to accept any advice they give you because you consider that they have your best interest at heart.
Even if they do have your best interest at heart, their own beliefs and view of how things should be done will hinder their ability to provide you with excellent useful and sound advice.
Also, advice from friends and family always is depended heavily on where they are in their life right now. The problems they have will undoubtedly impact their information you will receive. It seems to me that the other person that you need to reach out must have the training to be able to help you with this method.
The danger of getting advice that fall in the categories of desperate, bitter, go-along opinion because they just want to get rid of you is an issue you must be aware of.
Except for the buddy aspect of the method which I consider to be a bit risky using, all the rest that the author mentions are very useful and I did learn a lot. Don’t get me wrong the buddy system works if your buddy behaves in your best interest, that’s the risky part I am arguing about.
The book also helped me realized and clarify a lot of clouded thoughts of how some things should be done.
I was delighted to see that the author tried a Vegan approach to her diabetes problem and saw some positive results.
The thing that I got away from this book is one that I always apply myself, search research, apply, evaluate and repeat the whole process.
Jennifer M. Dunne wrote an excellent help book, and I highly recommend you get it. It will cut the corner as time is concerned, and you will save money.
This book will help you see bad situations with another light a more positive one. It will aid you in turning adverse situations into positive, disadvantages to advantages and finally see the good in a bad status and be able to use that to your benefit.
Again, Highly Recommended.
P.S. If you really want to learn more about on how to be a buddy for your friends or family you can find on the author’s site a cheat sheet. As the author inform me: The extra on her site gives a quick overview of the process and dos/don’ts for a buddy. As long as someone has the right attitude, of wanting to help you rather than “fix” you, they can be “trained” to be a buddy in a few minutes.